I'm a Type A personality. I like things a specific way: organized, clean, planned. However, life isn't always like that. With kids its messy, chaotic, dramatic, and full of unexpected surprises. Pretty much the opposite of everything that makes me sane.
When I was reading The Magnolia Story, there was a paragraph that jumped out to me. Joanna Gaines said, "I realized that my determination to make things perfect meant I was chasing an empty obsession all day long. Nothing was ever going to be perfect the way I had envisioned it in the past. Did I want to keep spending my energy on that effort, or did I want to step out of the obsession and to enjoy my kids, maybe allowing myself to get messy right along with them in the process?"
This is me. I try all day long to come behind my boys and clean up. When they ask me to play, I must tell them to wait, I should finish wiping this down. Or I will be there after I clean up all the blankets y'all got out. How much am I missing because of my obsession to get everything clean.
I feel I should pause here and say, I'm not perfect. Want to know where I don't obsess? Over windows and dusting. Those always get done very last. I've made those two chores money earning opportunities for my oldest.
So this new year, I'm trying to obsess less about a tidy house and enjoy the mess a little more. Now, let's not get carried away. I won't be leaving all my household chores behind and undone. I've started setting a timer each day for 30 minutes. Whatever I can get done and cleaned in those 30 minutes I do. When the timer goes off, I stop. I can take care of the rest tomorrow. The only exceptions are cleaning up after meals and my once daily vacuum of carpet, because dog hair. =P
And FYI, I get so much done in those 30 minutes, because I know I don’t have the time to fool around and jump from chore to chore. It’s like an old friend called and said they were stopping by in 30 minutes. Don’t tell me you wouldn’t get to speed cleaning your house if that happened. I wouldn’t believe it.
Do you have any obsessive areas of your life that cut into precious time with your family or kids? Is there a way to back off those obsessions? Maybe try setting a timer like I’m doing.